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While scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed, I came across a link to a Gawker article that one of my friends reposted.In an essay entitled "The Reality of Dating White Women When You're Black," writer Ernest Baker tackles big topics like Eurocentric beauty standards, the taboo aspect of interracial relationships, and why he dates white women, among others: Why do I date white women?But then something happened: people started talking to me, flirting even.Once I escaped the small, isolated microcosm of Upstate New York, I met people who didn't think of me just based off of my skin color.In fact, I completely forgot about it until a few responses started to pop up. But what about that 4 percent of blacks and 16 percent of whites?
One of the most difficult parts about being in an interracial relationship is the fact that I started to question things I never I questioned before.
I had dated a few guys before, all assholes, and I didn’t think many people would show interest in me.
I looked down at my fingertips, stained deep mocha from my foundation, and felt self-conscious.
As a young woman of color, I can attest to the fact that many people in this world feel it is their duty — no, their God-given right — to decide what is best for me, and especially whom is best for me to date.
For instance, I felt the need to defend my relationships to my mother who, like Baker’s mother, wondered when her daughter would bring home someone who looked more Michael B. My mother will resent me for saying this, but I know there is a part of her that wanted to see me settle down with someone black, someone who looked like me.
I went to a predominantly white high school where I was one of maybe five black kids.