Dating tips for shy teenage girls
When you ask backpackers in Jalan Jaksa about the girls they sleep with, they will often tell you girls who are dating older men.
Once again, you will have to be careful to respect her right to be young and to party/go out/etc.
Make her understand that you worked hard for the money you earned.
Dating older men for an Indonesian girl is not necessarily seen as a bad thing, because older men are deemed more adequate to provide girls with the security they need.
Yet, the age difference may also be a difficulty because it adds to the incomprehension between the two partners.
Working out these differences will teach you a lot of valuable lessons and you will learn to understand another culture which is just as fascinating as yours.
The thing you have to understand is: What does your girlfriend mean when she tells you "I love you". Western Love is a luxury that people can afford only after they've reached a certain level of security.
If you are not ready to do that, and if she doesn't understand it as well, then you should find a Christian or Hindu girl, they make up 10% of the Indonesian people so it's not that hard to find.