Debbie the online dating real
I finished my coffee and chalked it up to ‘well, what do you know. Are you seeking marriage, a serious relationship, a casual relationship, a friendship, travel partner, and/or pen pal? Oldcruzer is waiting for a bridge to be built to Hawaii so he can get there on his Harley.
And who would be rude enough to challenge the age thing, right? You’re way older and I wouldn’t have even known you if you hadn’t brought that hat along.” He walked out, got in his late model silver Mustang convertible and drove away with the top down even though it was a very cold day. another new experience.’Back to initially filling out the profile form. Willing to drink warm white wine and cold coffee.”You need to check boxes from the following selections: are you ‘Slightly romantic,’ ‘Very romantic,’ or ‘Extremely romantic.’ I selected slightly romantic. Here are some of my "matches." Their profile handles were like making sense out of automobile vanity plates: Bravehart4U, Bitmetwice, 52pickmeup, Funitsme69, Oldcruzer, Oohhjohnny, Varmintman.
" They were candid and funny about their experiences, and it turned out that they, too, could probably write a piece like this, but from the other side of the equation.
It seems that being on a dating site isn't for the faint-hearted.
Debbie, online dater, 53: I say I’m 47 because that’s around the age I’m looking for in a date.o you’re 41 but know you’ll probably get a lot more interest if you post your age as 38.
It’s not fair to the people out there who are being honest and trying to meet someone they can be with.
I chose a younger photo in which I’m wearing a hat that slants a few shadows across my face. And, anyway, I still have the same hat to wear for that first get-acquainted date over coffee. The meeting hadn’t been going well anyway when suddenly the seventy-five year old man stood up and said, “You should change the picture in your profile. After a couple of drafts, my own entry (like in a sweepstakes contest) read, “I love humor, travel, reading, and don’t mind inconvenience.
So am I sincere, fun-loving, free of baggage, and a great conversationalist?
If you haven’t tried online dating (and it was all new to me), the first hurdle for a woman ‘over a certain age’ is to get past the idea that meeting someone online is too much of a fringe thing, and that goes against everything our generation was warned about. Really, what nice, intelligent widower between 65 and 75 wouldn’t love to make my acquaintance? Out of the dozens of male candidates I looked at, I met for coffee with only six. and it appears there are a lot more of us lonesome folks out there than I'd imagined.
But if you decide to give it a try, here are some things to consider. Remember the days of truckers on their CB radios using nicknames like Good Buddy and Rubber Duck? So how do you choose a name for yourself that gets attention without being . During our date, I asked each of them, "So how's it going, being on this dating website? where our generation is living longer and more likely to find ourselves alone for one reason or another .
In the ‘Male Seeking Female’ profiles, some men choose mildly descriptive names like ‘Nevada Bob’ or ‘Tall Larry.’ But some pick inventive ways to reveal their goals regarding women, and many aren’t appealing. ’ Finally, I logged in as ‘Johanna5,’ Johanna being my grandmother’s name; the 5 because it’s my favorite number, neither lucky nor unlucky. Then there’s space for color of hair, eyes, and body type. Most proclaim they “love to listen to your hopes and dreams,” are “compassionate, caring, funny, easy-to-get-along-with” and ‘love to walk hand-in-hand in the sunsets.” Some bundle all of that into an even bigger package that includes ‘patient, loyal, adventurous, hard-working, love to cuddle, and trustworthy.” What’s not to like?