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‘An exchange of admiring glances or a bit of light-hearted flirtatious banter can brighten the day, raise self-esteem and strengthen social bonds,’ says Suliman.
‘Most people in long-term relationships can cope with a bit of admiration from someone else and may even benefit from knowing that others find them or their partners attractive.
After four more difficult months I finally broke up with him.(If you’re in the situation where your man cheats, read this). Flirting – the use of conversation, body language or physical contact to express romantic or sexual interest in another person – is a natural part of life.
In some countries (ask a French greengrocer) it’s the accepted way of interacting with the opposite sex. If we didn’t initiate contact and express interest in members of the opposite sex, we wouldn’t progress to reproduction and the human species would become extinct,’ says Durban counselling psychologist Rita Suliman.
At first I liked the fact that he was good with people…able to get the best table in the restaurant, and so on. Once the first romantic flush was over he was often quiet and uncommunicative, and I got increasingly insecure ad fed up with his flirtatious nature.
He’d spend whole evenings being almost silent but then we’d bump into some vague (female, obviously) acquaintance and he’d suddenly turn into Mr Charm, all smiles and suggestive banter. I talked to him about it, but he said I was imagining things and he was just being “friendly”.
Lerato*, 33, a freelance copywriter in Johannesburg, lost patience with her flirty boyfriend after a year.
‘Xolo* made me feel amazing when we met,’ she says.
When your man habitually schmoozes other girls under your nose you can end up feeling jealous, undermined and worthless.
Couples differ in their tolerance of flirtatious behaviour, though, and it’s important to be alert to signs of discomfort or distress.’ Most of us can tolerate a partner who flirts playfully and discreetly. Although we’re all needy in different ways, most of us share a need to feel worthy and to be recognised as attractive women, and a very charming member of the opposite sex hooks into this need.
But a boyfriend who incessantly ogles and chats up other women in our presence or flirts with real intent to get into other girls’ knickers, can wear us down. It takes a woman who’s dealt with her relationship issues and knows what she wants to be able to differentiate between a harmless flirt and a habitual one.
Discuss it with him, says Suliman, focusing on whether he understands how you feel when he flirts (angry, jealous) and whether he even realises what he’s doing.
‘If he is unable to acknowledge your feelings or you feel you can’t reach a consensus, you must ask yourself whether you can continue in a relationship where your feelings are no consequence,’ she says.Tell him how his behaviour makes you feel and how you’d prefer him to behave. Say, ‘If it happens again, I’ll do X, Y and Z,’ and stick to your word.